Guest List Success

1. Divide and Conquer: Divide your list between both sides of the family and mutual friends. Act diplomatically and be prepared to make certain concessions; your list shouldn't be based on how much each family is spending on the wedding.
TIP: With the cost of today's weddings, you can assume that you'll spend about $100 on each guest—a fact you should consider when compiling your guest list and planning your reception.

2. Don't Obsess About Obligation: Don't worry about inviting business associates and family acquaintances because you feel obligated. This is your ceremony, and you deserve to be surrounded by people who mean something to you.
TIP: Set a firm date when you need to receive the guest list from both sets of parent. This deadline will keep them organized and prevent the option of adding stragglers after the list has been completed. Consider limiting the number of guests each set of parents can suggest inviting to stay sane.

3. Set Ground Rules: If your guest list is oversized set restrictions you and your fiancé agree to and discuss them with both sets of parents. Make sure to do this in person so the conclusion is mutual and no one feels left out.

4. Address the Children: Consider whether or not you want childen at your wedding. You may need a playroom, babysitter, and a special children’s menu depending on how many attend.

5. The Plus One Rule: The spouses, fiancés and significant others of those you invite should always to be invited as well. You also need to determine whether or not single guests can bring a date with them.
TIP: If you’re concerned about the size of your guest list, you can always opt for a less expensive reception. Finger foods such as hors d oeuvres and desserts are economical fare, brunch is an excellent way to cut costs—neither will break the bank and both retain an element of simplicity and elegance.

6. Be Consistent with Your Party People: Guests that attend your engagement parties and showers must be invited to the wedding.

7. Consider Your Invitation Options: You can have ceremony only invitations, but consider this option carefully. This could cause hurt feelings among those who were not invited to the reception.Merry Go Rounds: Send out a first round of invitations to the people you absolutely want at your wedding, with an early date to RSVP. If any of those invites are sadly unable to attend, you’ll be able to invite other people who may be on secondary or tertiary lists.